Posted 1 week ago
Is it still considered abuse if I fight back or even if I slapped him in the face first but he did worse? There's a lot of verbal abuse as well
Anonymous asked

Well yes. 

Posted 1 week ago
I’m sick and tired of the mess you made me.
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Posted 1 month ago

Is it my time yet ? Is tonight the night I give up for good ?

Posted 1 month ago
So there's this guy that I used to like, I actually think I had fallen in love with him. I decided I was done with him after how poorly he treated me. He would get mad at me for no reason and couldn't understand when I was mad at him. He recently just had a girl he "fell in love with" turn on him and now he's "realized he treated me poorly" I'm afraid his manipulative behavior will drag me back in again, what should I do? I still want to be his friend.
Anonymous asked

But honey, why do you still wanna be friend with someone who treated you bad? If you loved someone, chances are if you stay friend with that person, feelings will eventually come back. You should really just put him out of your life.

Maybe he realized he trated you poorly, but it doesn’t mean he’s gonna do anything to change it. And who knows if he doesn’t say that just to get you back..

I’d suggest you just distance yourself and stop having any interraction with him. As an human, you deserve people who treat you right. As acquaintances, as friends, as lover. There’s no need for anyone treating you average or bad !

Posted 2 months ago
How are things going with your boyfriend ?
Anonymous asked

It’s going very well, thank you for asking :)

Posted 2 months ago
I say No More because I have met too many survivors who go through life handcuffed by what happened as they serve the rest of their lives in a mental prison of shame and guilt that belong to the perpetrator(s). Survival is a reminder that there are things in life that we may never get over, but we will get through them. I say No More because suffering in silence kills.
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Posted 2 months ago
Why do we stay in horrible relationships? Do we just a so much hope that things are gonna get better? But we just end up losing ourselves! I wanna just die
Anonymous asked

I think as human being, we tend to want to fix on other people what we can fix on ourselves. We’re all broken in some ways, but we decide to try to fix someone else so we can forget about our own problems. That’s just how we are, but I have a good new for you: We’re all the same. We just hope we’ll be able to fix our abuser, and then it’ll be a good relationship. But hey; YOU CAN NOT FIX PEOPLE. YOU CAN NOT. You can only fix yourself.

And I try to always remind myself that: I didn’t lose myself, I just became someone else. I just matured and learned and grew up and got stronger and it’ll help me for future difficulties in my life.

It’s all about perception.

It was not being abused and humiliated, it was the fight of your life and if you’re still there, let me tell you something: you won.

You’re not a victim, you’re a survivor. And I think that’s a beautiful thing to be.

There will always be bad days, there will always be nightmares, there will always be fears. But there will be even more pride, there will be even more good things, there will be even more things to accomplish.

Posted 2 months ago
He looked at me with no expression on his face and said, "I'm fighting cutting your fucking head off". My bf has psychological issues. A switch gets flipped and he's got a gun to his head. Is this abuse? I'm afraid, but numb at the same time.
Anonymous asked

Yes this is considered emotional/verbal abuse.

Having psychological issues isn’t an excuse. Please think about you first. If you don’t, no one will.

Posted 2 months ago
Bf is only nice to me after I blow him or after sex. And other times his hurting me. But I always give in. It hurts but when he is nice to me. It's wonderful. Am I fucked up for this. Do I like the abuse or am I just used to it?
Anonymous asked

You’re just used to it. 

And you’re not fucked up at all. Being nice is just a part of the abuse too. It’s a part of the cycle of violence. You can learn more about it here: http://www.domesticviolence.org/cycle-of-violence/

(Sorry I can’t figure out how to link it).

Posted 2 months ago
Sometimes I stay up late at night and I make lists of the reasons why I should & shouldn’t stay alive. Most of the time, it ends with me having a list of why I shouldn’t stay alive.