But honey, why do you still wanna be friend with someone who treated you bad? If you loved someone, chances are if you stay friend with that person, feelings will eventually come back. You should really just put him out of your life.
Maybe he realized he trated you poorly, but it doesn’t mean he’s gonna do anything to change it. And who knows if he doesn’t say that just to get you back..
I’d suggest you just distance yourself and stop having any interraction with him. As an human, you deserve people who treat you right. As acquaintances, as friends, as lover. There’s no need for anyone treating you average or bad !
It’s going very well, thank you for asking :)
I think as human being, we tend to want to fix on other people what we can fix on ourselves. We’re all broken in some ways, but we decide to try to fix someone else so we can forget about our own problems. That’s just how we are, but I have a good new for you: We’re all the same. We just hope we’ll be able to fix our abuser, and then it’ll be a good relationship. But hey; YOU CAN NOT FIX PEOPLE. YOU CAN NOT. You can only fix yourself.
And I try to always remind myself that: I didn’t lose myself, I just became someone else. I just matured and learned and grew up and got stronger and it’ll help me for future difficulties in my life.
It’s all about perception.
It was not being abused and humiliated, it was the fight of your life and if you’re still there, let me tell you something: you won.
You’re not a victim, you’re a survivor. And I think that’s a beautiful thing to be.
There will always be bad days, there will always be nightmares, there will always be fears. But there will be even more pride, there will be even more good things, there will be even more things to accomplish.
Yes this is considered emotional/verbal abuse.
Having psychological issues isn’t an excuse. Please think about you first. If you don’t, no one will.
You’re just used to it.
And you’re not fucked up at all. Being nice is just a part of the abuse too. It’s a part of the cycle of violence. You can learn more about it here: http://www.domesticviolence.org/cycle-of-violence/
(Sorry I can’t figure out how to link it).